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December Strategy
December and the holiday season can be a joyous, slow, wonderful time
to reconnect with our spirit, our friends, families and ourselves. Unfortunately,
it can also be a sad, break neck paced, disconnect time, when we feel
more lonely and isolated than at any other time of the year.
How you experience December and the holidays is completely up to you.
Really.
The key is to know yourself and to know how you tend to react to the
holidays. To know the things about the season that affect you negatively,
and to manage them. To practice over the top self care, self love and
to make sure you have many, many joyful moments. In short, the key is
to have a December strategy.
Here is an easy strategy for you to try on. This strategy is not new,nor
ground breaking, but perhaps is simple enough to stick in your mind and
help you be in charge of your December.
Most of the time this month, focus on one of two ideas:
- Nourish yourself for Christmas
- Do things the easy, enjoyable way
Here are some examples:
Nourish Yourself for Christmas
- Spend time with people who nourish and nurture. Nurture and nourish
them.
- Engage in extraordinary self care, in order to be full and more available
to others: massage, naps, walks, good meals, a bath, a trip to the gym,
etc.
- Have at least two parties/get togethers with close friends.
- Spend quiet time alone to decompress, re-energize and savor the season.
- Do something for the pure joy of it - read a good book, light candles,
eat chocolate, etc.
- Remember the people you love and why you're giving gifts to them
- reconnect.
- Play, play, play - let the kid in you enjoy the holidays.
- Volunteer or donate money - you will feel good contributing.
- Listen to lots of music to get in the spirit, lots of comedy to keep
in the spirit.
- Make a pact with a friend to be each other's support through the
holidays - share and get support liberally.
- Don't buy into anyone telling you where you should be in your life.
- Read validating, inspiring material to keep re-reminding yourself
you are ok.
- Make it your Christmas holiday season. Make it what you want it to
be now. Make it joyful.
Do things the easy, enjoyable way
- Go only to the parties you want to be at. Leave parties early that
aren't fun.
- Worry less about what people think of you or if they are judging
you. Focus on reconnecting instead.
- If there are questions you dread to be asked, such as "what
is happening with your relationship" or "why are you single",
think of a reply ahead of time. Make it gentle, authentic yet as casual
as you want it to be. A simple "I don't know" can work wonders!
- Purchase all gifts by early December at one or two places, and perhaps
online.
- If shopping needs to be done in a retail store, make it a fun adventure
- buy yourself something too, try something on, play, sing, etc.
- Never give gifts out of obligation - makes for a shorter Christmas
list. Give out of love.
- Ask for a Christmas want list - it's easier to make someone happy
if they receive what they wanted.
- Put aside a party going budget - $20 to $25 per party, and use this
budget to purchase what ever the hosts want brought in terms of food
or drink. Saves time on cooking.
- What ever the stressor, strategize about it ahead of time and come
up with an easy solution.
Have a great holiday season!
By Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries
This article was originally published by Coach Rinatta Paries in The
Relationship Coach Newsletter, a weekly e-zine for people who want fulfilling
relationship. For singles, the newsletter will help you attract your Mr.
or Ms. Right. If you're in a relationship, you will learn to create more
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